Pattern Changing Programme

Pattern changing is an educational course for women who have been in an abusive relationship. It is designed to help you understand domestic violence, how it has affected your life and how you can recognise your power and choices in life. Some women will not be sure whether they are in an abusive relationship and may come along to help them decide.

The course runs for 14 weeks and each session lasts approximately 2 hours.

The course aims to:

  • Break the cycle of abuse.
  • Break patterns of behaviour which lead to returning to an abusive partner or entering into another abusive relationship.
  • Help you change negative life long patterns to positive patterns of your own choosing as an adult women.
  • Enable you to receive support and encouragement to make these changes.

Once women have completed the course they are stronger and more positive. They hold their heads up high and their general attitude is greatly improved. They gain the confidence to go on and further their skills to enable them to reach their full potential and to enjoy life.

Areas covered by the course:

  • Rights of all human beings.
  • Impact of abuse on women and their families.
  • Why it is so hard to leave.
  • Dysfunctional childhood legacy.
  • Setting boundaries; Ending old patterns.
  • Understanding and dealing with feelings of guilt,grief and fear.
  • Understanding and dealing with anger.
  • Assertiveness training, learning to adopt assertive behaviours.
  • Planning future goals and learning how to make decisions
  • How to form healthy decisions.

Benefits of the course

We want to encourage as many women who have been victims of domestic violence as possible to take part in the course and therefore we:

  • Where possible provide crèche facilities.
  • Provide one to one support during and after the course.
  • Signpost women to or make referrals to other services if needed.
  • Courses are free and run at various confidential venues across Poole

Contact Details

If you would like to find out about the next course then please contact Poole Domestic Abuse Project by calling: 01202 748488 / 710777 or email

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